My Ahmedabad days are always glittery in my memory — the evenings especially, which were mostly spent in the various delectable eateries of the city. Ahmedabad is a city throbbing with flavours. One has to queue up for a table in the good restaurants on most nights as eating out is part of the culture there.
I can never forget the five different flavoured waters of pani puri or the fafdas , theplas and khakhras or the ice cream sandwiches at Manek Chowk at midnight! I also remember my dear ‘Masi’ with whom I could never communicate but who made my life much easier with the one phrase ‘Tame jem fave su karo!’ ( Do as you like! )
However , this luminescence is marred by the dark memory of a narcissistic energy vampire. Energy vampires are people who are extremely judgemental and bigoted. They have no empathy and can only make others feel negative.
I met one in my own department . Those were the days when I was still sore about leaving the Delhi life. Add to it the written and spoken communication gap as Gujarati is the official language there. I was also struggling with a new surgical technique in which she was already an expert.
She preyed on my insecurities to bolster her ego. She was a tyrant in the O.T. and even in the OPD she demeaned and loud mouthed me in front of the patients. It was all unchecked because the HOD was her teacher.
At times I felt that this behaviour stems from her own insecurities.But nonetheless I was so demoralised that I developed tremors during surgery. The memory of those days still depresses me. For the sake of sanity I fled Ahmedabad a year before my husband’s tenure was complete. What mental torture!
The Net tells about 101 ways to deal with energy vampires but trust me —- when you meet one — run full speed in the opposite direction!